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It seems that more of us have been “Heathered” at one time or another in life. Although it makes me feel better to know that I am not alone, I feel terrible that it happened to any of us at all.
My husband, Ryan, read Jen’s blog and remarked on something that I have also thought about all these years, the glaring hypocrisy of how girls and boys are viewed, or treated in many situations. He said that in Jen’s situation she was labeled a “slut” (as is most always the case in high school situations such as this), but what about the boy? Typically, the girl is referred to as a slut (or similar name), yet the boy is often placed on a pedestal for his sexual conquests. Of course, as adults this hypocrisy is blatantly clear, but as children and young adults it is unseen and hurtful. I think this merits working on, to make sure that at least our children understand that this hypocrisy is wrong.
Of course, it was high school and there was a boy in the middle of all the “mean girl” stuff for me. It bothered me at the time that the boy was able to keep all of his friends, still live his life, and not have anybody treat him badly. The fact that he had done something wrong was ignored (and probably celebrated) for the most part.
That being said, the more important part of this event is not so much what happened, but that I want to do everything I can to teach the little guy to treat girls with respect. No girl should be treated as if they can be cast off when the next best thing comes along. As I mentioned before, I want to teach baby girl about being a kind and strong girl/woman, but it is just as critical to teach our young boys to be kind, strong and respectful of girls (and truly all people regardless of gender).
When it comes down to it the old adage is true: “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”
home is…teaching our children well.